You’ve been dating your man for a few years and have been bombarded by the “when are you guys going to make it official?” question from your annoyingly nosy family and friends. You know yourself that he is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, and his actions and words are pointing in the same direction. So, what’s the hold up?
You banged his friend
Everyone has a past. Apparently, yours involve a tryst with his friend, you wh*re. It doesn’t matter if it was 5 years ago, or 5 days ago – no man wants to be his buddy’s sloppy seconds – let alone wife one up.
You’re too dependent
Men want to be needed, but he doesn’t want to be your be all and end all. While he will do anything to make you happy, he doesn’t want to be the only source of your happiness. Get your sh*t together.
You’re too nosy
Being curious about each other is natural – hacking into his email account and Facebook is not. If you spend all your spare time watching and monitoring his every move on Facebook or Twitter, trying to decipher the hidden meaning behind every post and tweet, then you’re on the cusp of crazy. Give him some space – there’s a fine line between curiosity and stalker.
He’s not serious about you
For him, there are plenty more fish in the sea and he’s not sold on the fact that you’re the fish he wants to lure. Which may mean…
You’re his side piece
You’ve been with this guy for how long and yet you have yet to meet anyone in his family? There’s a red flag right there. If he’s never around for holidays and shows up at your doorstep at erratic times, he’s not going to marry you because he probably already has a wife.
You’re more beauty than brains –
Having a ditzy, hot girlfriend is one thing – having a bimbo wife who he is unable to bring to any event where conversation is required is another. When a man is ready to commit, he is just as interested in what you bring to the table as he is in your external appearance. If all you bring to the table is a pretty face, a banging body and the ability to suck golf balls through a straw, the lack of anything deeper will limit his pursuit of you to the surface level.
You don’t possess ‘wifely’ qualities
You don’t cook, you don’t clean, you’re terrible with kids and you love to spend money – his money. One of the key reasons that men don’t want to get married is due to the financial aspects — he doesn’t want to go broke trying to keep you, a maid and a chef. Why would he marry you if you’re so useless?
You already act like this wife
Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? You’re already banging him regularly, playing house, acting like his wife – what man in their right mind would run to get a marriage license when you’re already his bitch?
He’s commitment phobic
Maybe he comes from a broken family, or perhaps he grew up in an environment that places no importance on marriage. If he says to you that he doesn’t believe in marriage, don’t think you’re the magical girl who can change his mind.
It’s too soon
We all know women mature faster than men – so while you may have developed the qualities that make you ready for marriage within a year, it make take 2 or 3 years for him. Ultimately, you’re going to have to take the gamble and decide if he’s worth the wait.
